Tuesday, 18 August 2020

Tuesday August 18th 2020


08:00 Another quiet lockdown day begins with a shower. I know Lois is feeling nervous this morning, because she’s got to give her presentation on baptism to her sect’s Iranian immigrant group after lunch. But as the time for the presentation gets nearer, I observe her becoming more confident – I can tell. If only I could be like that!

She’s the opposite to me – I start off feeling confident, if I’ve got to give a talk (basically because I’m in denial, and putting it all out of my mind). But as the time to give my talk gets nearer, I go into a complete panic. Yikes!

We are both introverts, but Lois is more extrovert than me, no doubt about that.

We hear an interesting radio talk this morning – an interview with a young American, Jessica Pan, who lives in London. She wrote a book all about her year of "living as an introvert pretending to be an extrovert”: an interesting idea. Too late for me, I think!


I particularly like Jessica’s title for the book – “Sorry I’m late: I didn’t want to come”.

I have generally all my life been pathological about arriving early for any engagement – often as much as an hour early, or more: whether it’s to get a good parking space or just so that I don’t panic if I lose my way, it didn’t matter - I had to get there in good time.  

But as I got within 10 years of retirement I began to realize that I had started showing up almost late for things – specifically for things like management training courses about the latest crazy fashionable-for-a-month management theories. In the end I figured out the reason for this dramatic change in behaviour:  yes, I hadn’t wanted to come!

Hail to thee, Jessica Pan – you kept us out of war….


13:30 I go off for my afternoon nap, while Lois sits down with the laptop to give her presentation to her sect’s class of Iranian immigrants with the help of a Farsi interpreter. The subject is Adult Baptism by Full Immersion.

a typical slide from the presentation

She told me later it went very well, and there were lots of questions, which is nice. She and the chairman convinced the class members that they shouldn’t feel under pressure to get baptized quickly, in the hope of speeding up their immigrant visas – the Home Office staff in charge of their applications would be more impressed if they saw that the Iranians were taking proper time and care over such a decision.

The next two sessions, to be given on the following two Tuesdays, will be about some of the things they will have to accept that they must not do after they are baptized: e.g. vote in elections or become members of the armed forces and the like.

19:30 Lois goes into the dining-room to take part in a meeting of her sect to decide what to do about their weekly bible seminars. I’m beginning to feel a bit like a “zoom widower”, but no matter – that’s not important right now! I think they’re going to decide to merge the Monday seminar with the Tuesday one, and make it one big online session, which seems to make sense.

19:45 I settle down in the living room and hear the second part of an interesting drama series about the birth of the “I Love Lucy” sitcom on American TV.


I missed the first episode, which was aired last night, but the situation they’ve arrived at so far seems to be that one of the US networks is interested in having a TV show based around Desi and Lucy, and they are settling to the theme that Desi will be a showbizzy band leader (“Ricky Ricardo”) – ie same as his real life role – while Lucy will just be an ordinary housewife, with ordinary concerns.

And as it’s the 1950’s that means Lucy’s going to have to be a bit ditsy and scatter-brained with it – oh dear!

But sadly that was the only way they thought that a woman could be funny in those days - oh dear (again) !!!

There’s some discussion with the studio about the title of the show – should it have Desi’s name in it, as he’s so big in the music world? The makers manage to persuade him otherwise, telling him that the projected title “I Love Lucy” is obviously his line, and nobody  else’s.

There’s some discussion about the couple’s sleeping arrangements – twin beds, of course, as the Hayes Code is still quite powerful. But the network is still complaining that the beds are too close together – they want at least a 36 inch gap, so as not to imply that the couple’s relationship is anything other than platonic: even though Lucy was at the time actually (in real life) obviously pregnant. Desi asks how the network think the baby was conceived? I didn’t tell them how, said the producer.

Ricky and Lucy’s beds – had to be at least 36 inches apart

What madness !!!!!

I discuss this with Lois later. We seem to remember that Dick Van Dyke and Mary Tyler Moore also slept in twin beds, but what was the situation in British TV sitcoms of the era?

When we think back, Lois and I realize that when it came to the sitcoms in the 1950’s in the UK, it was radio comedy that still dominated – we were still probably a few years behind the US when it came to TV set ownership.

And both the TV an the radio sitcoms that we did have, tended to avoid family situations, we realize looking back – they were mostly about friends, single people sharing a house, or same sex people sharing a house, situations which were thought to allow for more varied comic possibilities. We think that in the 1950’s ordinary British family life just wasn’t considered funny enough – oh dear, but perhaps they were right!

"Life with the Lyons", the only exception to the above, was very Americanized - it was centred around an American family living in London. Lois and I don't remember, but we feel sure that Ben and Bebe would have had twin beds too.


"Life with the Lyons"

20:30 Alison, our daughter in Haslemere, Surrey, rings us. She had a nice 45th birthday weekend with Ed and the 3 children in Norfolk at the weekend, and they are planning to come and stay with us in 2 weeks’ time, bringing a couple of tents to set up in our back garden, which will be nice.

Ed is very busy at the moment - he works in legal affairs for the Scottish railway companies, working from home. There was unfortunately a train crash in Scotland a couple of weeks ago, and the companies are also in negotiations with the Government to help keep their businesses going during the COVID crisis. So Ed is doing long hours.

Poor Ed !!!!!

22:00 We go to bed – zzzzzzzzz!!!!



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