Wednesday, 28 June 2017

Tirsdag den 27. juni 2017 kl 08:01 indtil onsdag den 28. juni 2017 kl 16:29

10:30 Vi kører over til Kennington, en lille forstad til Oxford, for at tilbringe dagen med vores venner, Jen og Bill, og med Daniel, deres søn, der kommer hjem fra arbejde ved 16-tiden. Lois har kendt Jen siden sin barndom i Oxford – Jen er et par år ældre end Lois. Vi så dem alle for nogle uger siden, da vi deltog i Basils begravelse – Basil var Jens far. Han havde lige fyldt 100 år, og havde fået den traditionelle fødselsdagskort fra dronningen – han døde faktisk to dage efter. Stakkels Basil!!!

Lois og Jen er meget meget gamle venner, så selvfølgelig kommer de meget meget godt ud af det med hinanden. De kan godt lide at snakke om de gamle dage, også Lois hjælper altid Jen i køkkenet med at lave frokost og aftensmad. Dette er lidt af en dårlig nyhed for mig, fordi det betyder, at jeg skal sidde i stuen og taler med Bill. Jeg finder Bill ganske lidt af en udfordring at snakke med – han ejer ikke en humoristisk sans og efter min mening har han en temmelig kedelig personlighed, i modsætning til Jen, der er så livlig – pokkers!

Det er en lettelse for mig, da Daniel, deres søn, kommer hjem fra arbejde. Dan har en meget god sans for ironisk humor, selvom hans livstil afviger fra det normale på mange måder: han er i 40’erne, men bor stadig hos sine forældre, hvilket er lidt usædvanligt. Han arbejder i et af universitetets biblioteker. Så vidt vi ved, har han aldrig haft en kæreste.

Daniel har mange kvindelige arbejdskollegaer – det er Jen sikker på, fordi hun har gjort lidt forskning på bibliotekets websted, men Daniel taler aldrig om dem, og giver kun vage svar, når Jen spørger ham om dem – du godeste, stakkels Daniel!!! Vi synes, han er bare meget genert.

Tilbageblik til sommeren 1986:
til venstre Lois med Alison (11) og Sarah (9),
og til højre Jen med Daniel (11), Naomi (13) og Quentin (9)

Lykkelige dage!!!!!

21:00 Vi kører tilbage til Cheltenham. Minx, vores datter Alisons kat, er meget glad for at se os – du godeste! Vi smækker benene op foran fjernsynet og ser to dokumentumfilm  i BBC4s ”Japan-sæson”.

Den første handler om Hokusai, den berømte japanske maler, der bogstavelig talt malede/tegnede tusindvis og tusindvis af billeder – han hver dagen af sit liv arbejdede arbejdede arbejdede, op til dagen, han døde (på 90 år 4 mdr). 


Hans fugle og dyr er så meget livlige – vi vil ikke se Hokusais lige igen. Jeg er lidt jaloux på ham over, at han havde sådan en absorberende beskæftelighed gennem hele livet.

Da han var 90 år og tæt på døden, malede han sit egne farvel, hvor han samlede alle hans yndlingselementer i ét maleri – et forenkelt image af sin højt elskede bjerget Fuji med sin yndlingsskabning, en lang, tynd drage, der flyder opad i en mørk sky og er ved at forsvinde ind i himlen.




Hokusai malede sit egne farvel, med sig selv som en af
sine elskede drager flydende væk ind i himlen over sin højt elskede Fuji
  
Dette er den bedste måde at forestille sig sit egne død på, synes jeg: at dø er at flyve ud af et (ikke nødvendigvis åbent!) vindue op i himlen, fri for smerter og bekymringer osv. Du godeste!!!

Denne slags død skete faktisk i tilfældet af RJ Mitchell, der udviklede det ikoniske Spitfire-kampfly i 1930’erne. Jeg så det i en ”biopic ” (dvs biografisk spillefilm), så det må være sandt ha ha ha.

Ved slutningen af filmen bliver han mere og mere syg og dør desværre som en ganske ung mand (på 42 år), i 1937. Han bliver begrænset til en lænestol. Hans sygeplejerske bringer ham et glas mælk og forlader ham et par minutter. Vi ser hans sjæl forlade hans krop og flyve ud af vinduet og op i luften, hvor det kongelige luftvåben er i gang med at teste Mitchells kampfly. Hans glas mælk falder til gulvet, hvor sygeplejersken finder det, da hun et par minutter senere kommer tilbage. Du godeste! Hvor rørende!!!

22:00 Vi er ikke natteravne, men vi bliver oppe lidt mere, så vi kan se den anden dokumentarfilm, ”Tokyo Girls”, der handler om endnu en vanvittig japansk fænomen: de såkaldte ”idoler” – unge japanske kvinder, der klæder sig ud som skolepiger og sådan, og synger og danser på scenen foran tusindvis af midaldrende mænd. Du godeste, sikke et vanvid!!!!



Ikke for første gang får vi det indtryk af, at japanerne bor på en anderledes planet, end os. Japan synes at være et brudt samfund på mange måder, især når det kommer til forholdet mellem kønnene. Så mange mænd gider ikke at udholde de mange udfordringer, der er involveret i at bygge og vedligeholde et forhold med kvinder, en proces der synes at være særlig kompliceret i Japan, på grund af vanvittige sociale konventioner, formoder vi.

mændene: - de er ingenting uden deres kvindelige idoler

pigerne: - de er ingenting uden deres mandlige fans

En gensidig afhængighed. Det virker trist i vores øjne, men man kan ikke nægte, at både mændene og pigerne hygger sig meget. Men sikke et vanvid!!!!!

23:00 Vi går i seng lidt senere, end normalt – zzzzzzz!!!!!

05:00 Jeg står tidligt op og laver én af mine rutinemæssige danske ordforrådtest.


08:00 Jeg hopper tilbage op i sengen til Lois og vi drikker vores morgenté. Vi står op og spiser morgenmad.

09:30 Vi kører over til Bishops Cleeve. Jeg smutter ind hos den lokale skomager og henter et par sko, som man har sat nye hæle på. Lois køber et nyt par sandaler. Vi kører hjem.

11:00 Vi taler lidt på Skype, med Sarah, vores datter i Perth, Australien, og med Jessica, én af Sarahs 4-årige tvillinger – desværre går Lily, den anden tvilling, igennem en genert fase for tiden.

vi taler lidt på Skype med Sarah, vores datter i Perth, Australien,
og med Jessica, en af Sarahs tvillinger

13:00 Vi spiser frokost og bagefter går jeg i seng for at tage mig en gigantisk eftermiddagslur – zzzzzz!!!

15:00 Jeg står op og læser et par sider af min bog om James, hertugen af Monmouth, Kong Charles 2.s ulovlige søn.

I 1674 udgav Jarl Shaftesbury, oppositionsleder, udgav en politisk pjece, hvor han anklagede kongen for at forsøge at blive en absolutisk monark. Som om Charles ønskede at bevise Shaftesbury forkert (ha ha ha), krævede kongen en øjeblikkelig undskyldning af Shaftesbury, og da han afviste, straffede han ham med imidlertidig fængsel i Tower of London.

I 1674 anklagede Jarl Shaftesbury kong Charles
for at prøve at blive til en absolutist monark.
Charles straffede ham med fængsel (for at bevise ham forkert, måske????)

Shaftesbury blev lidt senere løsladt, men mens han sad i Toweren, underholdte han sig ved at lave en liste over alle medlemmerne af overhuset og underhuset. Ved siden af hvert navn, sat han et bogstav ’w’ ved siden af sine venners navne (w = worthy – værdig på dansk), og et bogstav ’v’ ved siden af sine fjenders navne (v = vile, nedrig på dansk). Ved siden af James, kongens søns  navn, skrev han tre bogstaver ’v’ – du godeste! Han var åbenbart ikke en stor fan af James – det ved jeg med sikkerhed!!! Politisk jalousi er ikke noget nyt.

Jeg mindes, at jeg lavede en lignende liste over venner og fjender, da jeg gik i 1. klasse, men hvis jeg godt husker, brugte jeg aldrig mere end 2 bogstaver ’v’, selv i tilfælde af min værste fjende. Men jeg var aldrig sendt i fængsel af nogen, så måske var dette ikke nogen overraskelse – men det er jeg ikke helt sikker på.

English translation

10:30 We head over to Kennington, a small suburb of Oxford, to spend the day with our friends, Jen and Bill, and with Daniel, their son, who gets home from work about 4pm. Lois has known Jen since her childhood in Oxford - Jen is a couple of years older than Lois. We saw them all a few weeks ago when we attended Basil's funeral - Basil was Jen's father. He had just turned 100 years of age and had received the traditional birthday card from the Queen - and he actually died two days later. Poor Basil !!!

Lois and Jen are very very old friends, so of course they get on very well with each other. They like to talk about the old days, and also, Lois always helps Jen in the kitchen with cooking the lunch and dinner. This is slightly bad news for me because it means I have to sit in the living room and talk to Bill. I find Bill quite a challenge to talk to - he does not have a sense of humour and to me he has a rather boring personality, unlike Jen, who is so lively - damn!

It's a relief for me when Daniel, their son, comes home from work. Dan has a very good sense of ironic humour, although his life style differs from the norm in many ways: he is in his 40's, but still lives with his parents, which is a bit unusual. He works in one of the university's libraries. To the best of our knowledge, he has never had a girlfriend.

Daniel has many female work colleagues - that's something Jen is sure about because she has done some research on the library's website, but Daniel never talks about them, and only gives vague answers when Jen asks him about them - good grief, poor Daniel !!! We think he's just very shy.

Flashback to the summer of 1986:
To the left Lois, with Alison (11) and Sarah (9)
and to the right Jen, with Daniel (11), Naomi (13) and Quentin (9)

Happy days!!!

21:00 We drive back to Cheltenham. Minx, our daughter Alison's cat, is very happy to see us - my goodness! We stick our feet up in front of the television and watch two documentary films in the BBC4's "Japan season".

The first is about Hokusai, the famous Japanese painter, who literally painted or drew thousands and thousands of pictures - every day of his life he just worked worked worked, up till the day he died (at age 90 years 4 months).


HokusaiListing

His birds and animals are so incredibly lively - we will not see Hokusai's like again. I'm a little jealous of him because he had such an absorbing occupation throughout his whole life.

When he was 90 years old and close to death, he painted his own farewell, collecting all his favourite elements into one painting - a simplistic image of his much-loved Mount Fuji with his favourite creature, a tall thin dragon floating upwards in a dark cloud about to disappear into the sky.




Hokusai painted his own farewell, with himself as one of
his beloved dragons floating away into the sky over his beloved Mount Fuji

This is the best way to imagine one's own death, I think: to die is to fly out of a (not necessarily open!) window up into the sky, free from pain and worries, etc. My goodness!!!

This kind of death actually happened in the case of RJ Mitchell, who developed the iconic Spitfire fighter in the 1930s. I saw it in a "biopic" (ie biographical feature film), so it must be true ha ha ha.

At the end of the film he becomes more and more ill and dies, in 1937, still a fairly young man (42 years old),. He becomes confined to an armchair. His nurse brings him a glass of milk and leaves him for a few minutes. We see his soul leave his body and fly out of the window and into the air, where the Royal Air Force is testing Mitchell's combat aircraft. His glass of milk falls to the floor where the nurse finds it when she comes back a couple of minutes later. My Goodness! How touching !!!

22:00 Lois and I are not night owls, but we stay up a little more so we can see the other documentary film, "Tokyo Girls", which is about yet another crazy Japanese phenomenon: the so-called "idols" - young Japanese women who dress up as school girls and suchlike, and sing and dance on stage in front of thousands of middle aged men. Good grief, what madness !!!!



Not for the first time, we get the impression that the Japanese live on a different planet from us. Japan seems to be a broken society in many ways, especially when it comes to the relationship between the sexes. So many men cannot be bothered to put up with the many challenges involved in building and maintaining a relationship with women, a process that seems to be particularly complicated in Japan, because of insane social conventions, we imagine.

the men – they are nothing without their female idols

the girls – they are nothing without their male fans

A mutual dependency. It seems sad in our eyes, but one cannot deny that both the men and the girls enjoy themselves a lot. But what madness !!!!!

23:00 We go to bed a little later than usual - zzzzzzz !!!!!

05:00 I get up early and do one of my routine Danish vocabulary tests.


08:00 I hop back into bed with Lois and we drink our morning tea. We get up and have breakfast.

09:30 We drive over to Bishops Cleeve. I pop in at the local shoemaker's and pick up a pair of shoes that they have put new heels on. Lois buys a new pair of sandals. We drive home.

11:00 We talk a little on Skype with Sarah, our daughter in Perth, Australia, and with Jessica, one of Sarah's 4-year-old twins - unfortunately, Lily, the other twin, is going through a shy phase at the moment.

we talk a bit on Skype with Sarah, our daughter in  Perth, Australia,
and with Jessica, one of Sarah’s twins

13:00 We eat lunch and afterwards I go to bed and take a gigantic afternoon nap - zzzzzz !!!

15:00 I get up and read a few pages of my book about James, Duke of Monmouth, King Charles II's illegitimate son.

In 1674, Earl Shaftesbury, the opposition leader, published a political pamphlet, where he accused the king of trying to become an absolute monarch. As if Charles was wanting to prove Shaftesbury wrong (ha ha ha), the king demanded an immediate apology of Shaftesbury, and when he refused, he punished him with temporary imprisonment in the Tower of London.

In 1674, Earl Shaftesbury accused King Charles of
attempting to become an absolutist monarch.
Charles punished him with imprisonment (to prove him wrong perhaps???)

Shaftesbury was released a little later, but while sitting in the Tower, he entertained himself by making a list of all the members of the upper house and the lower house. Next to each name, he placed a letter 'w' next to his friends' names (w = worthy) and a letter 'v' next to his enemies' names (v = vile). Next to James's (the king's son's) name, he wrote three letter 'v's - good grief! He was obviously not a big fan of James - I know that for sure !!! Political jealousy is nothing new.

I recall that I made a similar list of friends and enemies when I was in 1st grade, but if I remember rightly, I never used more than 2 letter 'v's, even in the case of my worst enemy. But I was never sent to prison by anyone, so maybe this was not a surprise – but that’s something I’m not completely sure about.


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