Thursday, 25 April 2019

Wednesday, April 24 2019


09:30 Lois and I go out into the backyard and do a little weeding - me in the so-called south-east vegetable garden, and Lois between the fruit bushes. We have a deadline - the weather girl has said that the mini-heat wave is coming to an end, and it is going to rain, starting about  12 o'clock noon, or thereabouts.

I work well today. After an hour and a half, there is a 30 square foot piece of land that is now 100% free of weeds - huzzah!

I am trying now to think of the garden not so much as a nightmare giant task that never gets finished, and more in terms of the garden being like a kind of mini-gym for old crows (or "gym crows" as we call ourselves), which they can spend an hour or so on per day, and which stops them spending the whole day sitting down. This helps me to feel more positive about gardening.



We go back in the house and recharge our batteries with a cup of tea and a biscuit on the sofa. We are tired and have aching joints - damn!

Afterwards we drive into the village. I swing by the convenience store (the former Bakery Stores) to buy fruit and vegetables, while Lois pops into the local pharmacy to pick up her statins - she unfortunately suffers from a slightly elevated cholesterol count.

12:30 We have lunch and afterwards we go out into the garage and take out the two big black bags of soft toys dating from our 2 daughters' childhoods. On Friday morning I dragged 7-8 bags of old soft toys down the loft ladder and put them in the garage, so that our elder daughter Alison and her 3 children - Josie (12), Rosalind (10) and Isaac (8) - could look through them and decide if they would like to take some of them home to Haslemere, Surrey.


flashback to last Friday: Lois, Alison and Alison's 3 children look through
the 7 or 8 big black bags soft toys I had dragged down from the attic.

I was totally surprised that the children were actually so eager to take most of our old soft toys home to Haslemere with them.

Today, however,  Lois and I have to deal with  the remaining 2 bags, containing  the toys the children did not want.

Poor toys!!!!!!

The first bag, containing very worn or damaged toys, I throw in the trash can immediately. The second bag however contains toys that now have to be washed in the washing machine, and after that it’s possible we’ll be able to donate them to some charity shop.

14:00 I go to bed and take a gigantic afternoon nap. Meanwhile, Lois looks through the remaining soft toys, and chucks some in the washing machine.

The toys now get to enjoy themselves for once, swirling around together in the washing machine's hot soapy water, while Lois sits on the sofa and sees even more old episodes of the sitcom "It Ain't Half Hot Mum", first aired by the BBC in the 1970’s and now considered "politically incorrect".

The episodes were set in the very last days of British rule in India in the late 1940’s. The leading Indian character was played by a (Caucasian) Brit who “browned up” for the part – my god, what madness!

Lois sits on the sofa with some of the old soft toys that date
from our 2 daughters’ childhood, while she watches even more episodes of
"It Ain't Half Hot Mum", a now politically incorrect BBC sitcom from the 1970's

a typical scene from "It Ain't Half Hot Mum", where the leading Indian character
was played by a Caucasian Brit (Michael Bates) who “browned up” for the role
- my god, what madness !!!!

16:00 I get up. Lois has found 2 of the mini-Easter eggs that we hid in the utility room as part of the Easter egg hunt we organised last weekend  for Alison's three children. Hoorah - and yum yum !!

I take a little look at my smartphone. I browse some Danish news sites (ekstrabladet.dk), and I get a bit of a shock, to put it mildly.

This particular story came out of a recent episode of the Danish reality show “Ex on the Beach”, where participants  are confronted by surprise appearances of an ‘ex’ or two from their past.


Fie Laursen, a well-known Danish reality star "babe", was absolutely certain that she had seen Nicklas, the handsome football-guy somewhere before. 

When Nicklas came out of the water and started walking towards Fie and the other participants, we hear Fie blurt out to her companions, “Can I have fucked someone I can't remember?” Then she addresses Nicklas  directly, with "How come I recognise you?". Nicklas has his answer ready right away. "Because we've fucked”, he says with a smile.
  

Nicklas, one of her exes, comes up out of the water, to Fie's surprise and confusion.
But she can't quite place him.

the couple embrace, but it's somewhat hesitant on Fie’s part
.
Fie says she is almost certain that she knows who Nicklas  is. "I kind of know who he is, I can see all his Instagram profile in front of me, but I'm like ‘why can't I remember fucking him?’.

Nicklas revealed in his presentation video for "Ex on the Beach" that he and Fie had once had something going on between them, and that that was why he was going to be in the programme. A ‘something’ that Fie apparently can't quite remember, when she first sees the 22-year-old footballer.

But I sympathise with Fie, I have to say. I constantly meet people who I half recognise in one way or another, but who I do not have the faintest idea of ​​where I have seen them before. In my case, however, it is obviously not me wondering if I have had sex with them, but just other everyday things - eg.  was he/she a former work colleague, and that kind of thing.

I call these occasions my "senior moments", so I suppose that when Fie can't remember whether she's fucked someone, she could call it a "junior moment", maybe, but is that the right expression? It’s something I'm not 100% sure about for now - the jury is still out on that one.

My goodness, what a crazy world we live in !!!!

18:00 We have dinner and watch some television. The latest episode of "First Dates" is on.




This show is mine and Lois's favourite dating show, where participants go on a date and eat at a special restaurant with a potential partner that Channel Four has chosen for them.

The programme has a serious purpose to a certain extent, i.e. to find possible compatible life partners for the participants. It's much better than the version that plays out in a hotel in Italy, where participants spend the days sitting around the hotel swimming pool in next to nothing and then go to bed with their potential partners as soon as the "date" is over.

And it is much much better than the show's "celebrity version", where we see B-list and reality show celebrities taking part just to get more publicity and to stay in the public eye.

heartwarming vignette: the soft toys that have been washed in the washing machine
dry themselves off and "sunbathe" in front of the gas fire, while a "First Dates" babe 
on the TV screen sends them a "kissie-mouth", as the Danes say.

Tonight, 3 of the 4 dates go very badly and there is no prospect of further dates in the future – my god!

And Lois and I notice, and not for the first time, that although the couples are well-matched when it comes to age, the women are mostly much more mature than the men: sometimes almost as if the woman and the man are from different generations - yikes!

Jack and Safina: Safina is an intelligent  woman with a very interesting lifestyle: she is a cabaret artist, also a circus performer in her spare time - including fire-eating, stilt-walking  and suchlike. But we hear almost nothing about her, because Jack just talks about Jack, and nothing else – good grief!

Jack says he's "a bad boy," but he wants a woman who doesn't tell him off or bawl him out. Well, you’re just a pain in the arse, Jack!







Sally and Andy:  Sally was tragically widowed in 2004. She and her husband were on holiday Christmas 2004 in Thailand at a hotel next to the beach. The couple had spent an idyllic Christmas Day, but the following day the famous tsunami hit the area. Sally was rescued by a local Thai stranger, but unfortunately her husband was engulfed by the massive wave.

However, she says that because of her terrible experience, she is now so very much more aware of how short life is, and the fact that it can disappear within a few seconds. And she thinks, “If I'm here, I'm going to make sure I'm bloody happy!”.








Lois and I agree that Sally has the right attitude - most of us never experience a real tragedy, and we allow life to slip through our fingers and postpone a lot of things because we imagine we have plenty of time.

“Carpe diem” and enjoy the day! What a good sentiment  to go to bed on.

22:00 Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz !!!!



Danish translation

09:30 Lois og jeg går ud i baghaven og luger lidt – mig i den såkaldte syd-østlige grøntsagshave, og Lois mellem frugtbuskene. Vi har en frist – vejrpigen har sagt, at de seneste 4-5 dages mini-hedebølge er ved at blive slut, og det kommer til at regne startende ved 12-tiden, eller deromkring.  Jeg arbejder godt i dag. Efter en halvanden time, er der en 30 kvadratfødder stykke jord, der nu er 100% fri for ukrudt – hurra!



Vi kommer ind i huset og genoplader vores batterier med en kop te og en kiks i sofaen. Vi er trætte og har ondt i ledene – pokkers! Bagefter kører vi ind i landsbyen. Jeg smutter ind i nærbutikken (den tidligere Bakery Stores) for at købe frugt og grøntsager, mens Lois kigger ind i det lokale apotek for at hente sine statiner – hun lider desværre af et lidt forhøjtet kolestoroltal.

12:30 Vi spiser frokost og bagefter går vi ud i garagen og henter de to store sort sække propfyldte med bløde legetøj, der daterer fra vores 2 døtres barndom. I søndag formiddag slæbte jeg 7-8 sækker af gamle bløde legetøj ned ad loftstigen og satte dem i garagen, så vores ældste datter Alison og hendes 3 børn -- Josie (12), Rosalind (10) og Isaac (8) - kunne kigge dem igennem og beslutter, om de gerne ville få nogle af dem med hjem til Haslemere, Surrey.


tilbageblik til sidste fredag: Lois, Alison og Alisons 3 børn kigger igennem
de 7-8 store sorte sække bløde legetøj, jeg havde slæbt ned fra loftet.

Jeg var helt overrasket, at børnene faktisk var så opsatte på, at få størstedelen af de bløde legetøj med hjem. Men nu skal de resterende 2 sække behandles på én eller anden måde.

Den ene sæk, der indeholder meget slidte eller beskadigede legetøj smider jeg omgående i affaldsspandet; den 2. sæk indeholder legetøj, som skal vaskes i vaskemaskinen, og derefter kan vi måske donere dem til en eller anden velgørenhedsbutik.

14:00 Jeg går i seng for at tage en gigantisk eftermiddagslur. I mellemtiden kigger Lois de bløde legetøj igennem og smider nogle i vaskemaskinen.

Legetøjene hygger sig meget sammen i vaskemaskinens varme sæbevand, mens Lois sidder i sofaen og ser endnu flere gamle afsnit af ”It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”-sitcommen, der først blev sendt af BBC-kanalen i 1970’erne, og som nu er betragtet som ”politisk ukorrekt” – afsnittene spillede sig ud i de allersidste dage af den britiske herredømme i Indien sidst i 1940’erne. Den førende indiske karakter blev spillet af en brit der sminkede sig brun - du godeste, sikke et vanvid!

Lois sidder i sofaen med nogle af de gamle bløde legetøj, der daterer
fra vores 2 døtres barndom, mens hun ser endnu flere afsnit af  ”It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”,
en nu politisk ukorrekt BBC-sitcom fra 1970’erne

en typisk scene fra ”It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”, hvor den førende indiske karakter
blev spillet af en brit (Michael Bates) der sminkede sig brun til rollen
– du godeste, sikke et vanvid!!!!

16:00 Jeg står op. Lois har fundet 2 af de mini-påskeæg, som vi skjulte i bryggerset som en del af den påskeægjagt, vi sidste weekend organiserede for Alisons tre børn. Hurra – og yum yum!!
Jeg kigger lidt på min smartphone. Jeg blader igennem nogle danske nyhedswebsteder, og jeg får lidt af et chok, for at sige mildt.


Fie Laursen, en kendt dansk realitystjerne, var helt sikker på, at hun havde set den flotte fodboldfyr, der indtog stranden i den nyeste episode af 'Ex on the beach'. Da Nicklas kommer op fra vandet og går hen mod pigerne udbryder Fie til den unge mand med vaskebrættet. Har jeg knaldet en eller anden, jeg ikke kan huske?” spørger hun de andre, inden hun henvender sig direkte til den nye deltager. ”Hvorfor er det, at jeg kan genkende dig?”, lyder det.


Nicklas kommer op fra vandet til Fies overraskelse og forvirring

Og Nicklas har da også et svar klar med det samme. ”Fordi vi har knaldet sammen, siger han med et smil.

parret omfavner lidt tøvende -  det er kun Nicklas, der husker Fie,
og ikke omvendt.

Fie er næsten sikker på, at hun ved, hvem der er tale om. ”Jeg ved, hvem han er, jeg kan se hele hans Instagramprofil for mig, men jeg er bare sådan 'hvorfor kan jeg ikke huske, om jeg har knaldet ham, eller hvad jeg har lavet med ham'.

Nicklas fortalte i sin præsentationsvideo til ”Ex on the Beach”, at han har haft noget kørende med Fie Laursen, og at det er derfor, han er med i programmet. Noget, som Fie åbenbart ikke helt kan huske ved første øjekast på den 22-årige fodboldfyr.

Men jeg sympatiserer med Fie – det må jeg nok sige. Jeg møder konstant mennesker, som jeg halvt genkender på en eller anden måde, men som jeg ikke har den fjerneste anelse om, hvor jeg har set dem før. Det er imidlertid slet ikke tilfældet, at jeg begynder at undre mig, om jeg har knaldet med dem, men bare andre ting – fx. var han/hun en tidligere arbejdskollega, og den slags.

Jeg kalder disse tidspunkter mine ”seniore øjeblikke”, så jeg formoder, at når Fie ikke kan huske, om hun har knaldet med en eller anden, kunne hun kalde det et ”juniorøjeblik”, måske men det er jeg ikke helt sikker på – juryen er stadig ude om det.

Du godeste, sikke en skør verden vi lever i !!!!

18:00 Vi spiser aftensmad og ser lidt fjernsyn. De viser den seneste episode af ”First Dates”.




Dette show er Lois’ og min yndlings-datingshow, hvor deltagere går ud på en date og spiser på en special restaurant med en potentiel partner, som tv-kanalen har valgt til dem.

Programmet har i en vis grad et seriøst formål, dvs at finde mulige kompatible livspartnere til deltagerne. Det er meget bedre, end versionen, der spiller sig ud i et hotel i Italien, hvor deltagere bruger dagene på at sidde omkring hotellets swimmingpool i næsten ingenting, og går i seng med deres potentielle partnere, så snart aftenen er forbi.

Og det er meget meget bedre, end showets ”kendis-version”, hvor vi ser B-liste og reality show-kendisser deltager med det formål at få publicitet og at forblive i det offentlige øje.

hjertevarmende: de bløde legetøj, der er blevet vasket i vaskemaskinen
tørrer sig af og ”solbader”, mens en ”First Dates”-babe på tv-skærmen
sender dem en ”kyssemund”

I aften går 3 af de 4 dates meget dårligt, og der er ikke nogen udsigt til yderligere dates i fremtiden – du godeste!

Og Lois og jeg bemærker, og ikke for første gang, at selvom parrene er godt matchede, når det kommer til alderen, er kvinderne for det meste meget mere modne, end mændene: nogle gange næsten som om, kvinden og manden er fra anderledes generationer – yikes!

Jack og Safina: Safina er en kvinde med en meget interessant livstil: hun er kabaretkunstner, også circusartist i sin fritid – herunder ildsluger, styltegænger og den slags. Men vi hører ikke noget om hende, fordi Jack bare taler om Jack, og ikke noget andet.

Jack siger, han er ”en slem dreng”, men han vil have en kvinde, der ikke revser ham, eller skælder ham ud.







Sally og Andy: Sally blev tragisk gjort til enke i 2004. Hun og hendes mand var på ferie i juletiden 2004 i Thailand på et hotel ved siden af stranden. Parret havde tilbragt en idyllisk juledag, men den følgende dag ramte den berømte tsunami området. Hun blev reddet af en fremmed, men hendes mand døde desværre.

Hun siger imidlertid, at hun på grund af sin forfærdelige oplevelse nu er meget meget klar over, hvor kort livet er, og dét, at den kan forsvinde i løbet af et par sekunder. Og hun tænker, hvis jeg er her, skal jeg sørge for, at jeg er fucking lykkelig.








Lois og jeg er enige om, at Sally har den rigtige attitude – de fleste af os oplever aldrig en reel tragedi, og vi tillader livet at slippe gennem fingrene på os, og udskyder en masse ting, fordi vi forestiller os, at vi har masser af tid.  

Carpe diem, og nyd, brug dagen! Sikke et godt synspunkt, at gå i seng på.

22:00 Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!


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