It’s November 29, the day each year when Lois and I have
my late sister Kathy in our minds on and off all day - she would have turned 72
today if she were still alive: she died 6 years ago in Norristown,
Pennsylvania, where she lived with her husband, Steve.
We know Steve is in Oklahoma City today to celebrate
Thanksgiving with his mom and siblings - he's told us he'll drink a cocktail
with his sister and toast Kathy later in the day, and I'll do the same with
Lois with my gin and tonic - cheers Kathy, and thanks for all the sweet
memories you left us with!
I was only 20 months old when Kathy was born, so I simply
don't remember a time when she wasn't around.
Flashback to 1948-1949, and the family
house, just outside Dover:
me and my little redhead sister Kathy
Growing up, she was always much more adventurous and
independent than me. She was always a bit rebellious and there were frequent clashes
with our parents, especially my father. As a teenager, she stopped coming on
family holidays, preferring to spend holidays with her school friends. And she
was eager to move out as soon as possible and have her own apartment.
Several years later, when I worked for the British
Embassy in Washington DC, she flew over there and lived for months with me,
Lois and our 2 young daughters - Alison (8) and Sarah (6) while she was hunting
for her own apartment. She also got a job with the embassy.
My sister Kathy at 35 years moves in with us
in the spring of 1983:
the living room of our house in Columbia,
Maryland.
Kathy and I go to Columbia city centre to watch
our first Independence Day Parade
In the summer of 1983 we took her with us on a vacation to
New England.
a boat trip on a lake in New
Hampshire
on a mountain in New Hampshire
in Boston, Massachusetts
After several months with us, she managed to find her own
apartment and she took this farewell photo of our little family in front of our house, before
driving off in her Mustang to start her new life.
a farewell photo of us, before Kathy drove away to start her new life
Happy days !!!!!!
09:00 Lois and I roll out of bed. Unfortunately, I have
woken up with a pain in the groin area - damn it! And Lois has her usual back
problems. So it's painkillers for two after breakfast - damn (again) !!!!
10:00 An unpleasant noise from 3 doors away means we soon
realise that builders have begun their work to demolish our former doctor’s
surgery and build 6 houses on the land. The site was our surgery until January,
but the doctors decided to have it torn down so they could sell the land. They
are such bastards, those doctors!
Flashback to January: the doctors close the
old medical centre,
and move into a new one 5 miles away from
here. The one-story former
medical centre can be
seen in the background behind Lois.
The doctors' plan to tear down the old surgery
and get 6 new houses built on the land.
My goodness - they are such jerks, those
doctors !!!!
Although the government's regional planning committee in
Bristol has not 100% approved the construction company's plans yet, it looks
like the builders have begun work on the approved parts of the plans and they
have come along with some kind of digger today to identify where they are
underground pipes lie, or something similar - they are such bastards, those
builders !!!!
12:00 We have lunch and afterwards I go to bed and take a
gigantic afternoon nap. Meanwhile, Lois settles on the couch and watches yet
another sentimental American TV Christmas movie, "A Rose At
Christmas".
The movie's US TV premiere (2018)
While watching the movie, she digs out the calendars we
bought yesterday at Webb’s Garden Centre. She plans to send them to her
relatives in Australia: Stephen in Adelaide and Sylvia in Melbourne, but when
she opens them, she finds that there are no envelopes enclosed in the packaging,
despite the words "Envelope Included" on the cover. My god, what
madness !!!!
My god, she really get furious now at the garden centre –
good grief! And as I roll out of bed, she insists that we drive immediately to
the store to get a refund. The worst thing about that is that she was actually very
happy with the calendars themselves, and now she has to shop elsewhere to find
something similar - damn!
16:00 We fight the traffic jams caused by mothers picking
up their children after school, and we pop in at the garden centre and get our
refund; the store has stacks of these calendars and it is a bit of a mystery
why no one has noticed before that there are no envelopes enclosed in the
packaging, but I’m going to let that one slide. I imagine everyone is far too
busy during the Christmas season to worry about details – good grief, what a
crazy world we live in !!!!
18:00 We have dinner and spend the rest of the evening
watching some television, the latest edition of Gogglebox, where these now
famous "ordinary TV viewers" comment on the week's programmes from the
comfort of their sofas and armchairs.
One of the Gogglebox program's couples, Giles and Mary,
who live in a small village in County Wiltshire sometimes seem uncomfortably
similar to Lois and me. And Lois says I’m turning into a bit of a clone of
Giles.
Many evenings we sit on the couch watching television,
and one or the other of us comes up with some question, such as whether or not
some celebrity is dead yet or not - that sort of thing. And I usually dig my
smartphone out and key the question into its tiny screen to google it.
Gogglebox Mary, however, always tries to ask "Siri",
her smartphone's robotic voice, usually without success. Tonight, she wants to
find out what cobwebs are made of, for example, but Giles is sceptical. Mary
asks the question twice without answer, then she tries again:
I don’t feel tempted to use these voice things. Myself I
prefer to endure the frustrations caused by my own typographical errors - the
smartphone screen is so microscopic and my fingers are so big. I never use oral
input - I know Siri, Alexis etc can make people absolutely furious with rage.
But maybe I'm just too old-fashioned. Maybe it's time I
stepped into the Siri era. I will have to try to monitor Mary and Giles a
little more closely as they continue to bawl Siri out over the coming weeks and
months, no doubt about that!
22:00 We go to bed - zzzzzzzz !!!!!
Danish
translation: fredag den 29. november 2019
Den 29.
november, dagen hvert år, når Lois og jeg har min afdøde søster Kathy i vores
tanker hele dagen – hun ville være fyldt 72, hvis hun stadig var i live: hun
døde for 6 år siden i Norristown, Pennsylvania, hvor hun boede med sin mand,
Steve. Vi ved at Steve er i Oklahoma City i dag, for at fejre Thanksgiving med
sin mor og søskende – han har fortalt os, han senere på dagen vil drikke en
cocktail med sin søster og hilse på Kathy, og jeg vil gøre det samme med Lois
med min gin og tonic – skål Kathy, og tak for alle de søde minder, du efterlod
os!
Jeg var kun 20
mdr gammel, da hun var født, så husker jeg simpelthen ikke en tid, når hun ikke
var til stede.
tilbageblik
til 1948-1949, og familiens hus, lidt uden for Dover:
mig
og min lille rødhårede søster Kathy
Da hun voksede
op, var hun altid meget mere eventyrlysten og uafhængig, end mig. Hun var altid
lidt oprørsk, og der var hyppige opgør med vores forældre, især min far. Som
teenager holdt hun op med at deltage i familieferie, og foretrak at holde
ferier med sine skolevenner. Og hun var ivrigt efter at flytte ud som hurtigt
som muligt og have sin egen lejlighed.
Flere år senere, da jeg arbejdede for det britiske
ambassade i Washington DC, fløj hun derover og boede i flere måneder hos mig,
Lois og vores unge døtre – Alison (8) og Sarah (6), mens hun var på jagt efter
sin egen lejlighed. Hun fik også et job med ambassaden.
Min søster Kathy på 35 år flytter ind hos os i
foråret 1983:
stuen til vores hus i Columbia, Maryland.
Kathy og jeg i Columbias bymidten i gang
med at kigge på vores 1. uafhængighedsdagsparade
Om sommeren 1983 tog vi hende med på en ferie i New
England.
en bådtur på en sø i New Hampshire
kathy7: på et bjerge i New Hampshire
i Boston, Massachusetts
Efter flere måneder hos os, lykkedes det hende at finde
sin egen lejlighed, og hun tog dette farvelbilleder af os foran vores hus, før
hun kørte ud i sin Mustang.
Lykkelige dage!!!!!!
09:00 Lois og
jeg vælter ud af sengen. Desværre har jeg vågnet med ondt i lyske-område –
pokkers! Og Lois har stadi sine sædvanlige rygproblemer. Så er det
smertestillende tabletter til to efter morgenmad – pokkers (igen) !!!!
10:00 Et
ubehagelig larm fra 3 døre væk betyder, at vi snart bliver klar over, at
byggemænd er begyndt på deres arbejde til at rive vores tidligere lægehus ned
og bygge 6 huse på jorden. Lokalet var indtil
januar vores lægehus, men lægerne besluttede at få lægehus revet ned, så de
kunne sælge jorden. De er sådanne nogle sjufter, de der læger!
Tilbageblik
til januar: lægerne lukker det gamle lægehus,
og
flytter ind i et nye 5 miles væk herfra. Det
én-etagers gamle lægehus
kan ses i baggrunden bag Lois.
Lægernes
planer om at reve det gamle lægehus ned
og
få 6 nye huse bygget på jorden
Du
godeste – de er sådanne nogle sjufter, de der læger !!!!
Selvom regeringens regionale planlægningsudvalg i
Bristol ikke har 100% godkendt bygningsfirmaets planer endnu, ser det ud til,
at byggemændene er begyndt at foretage de godkendte dele af planer, og de er kommet i dag med en
eller anden slags gravemaskine for at identificere, hvor de underjordiske rør
ligger, eller noget lignende – de er sådanne nogle sjufter, de der
byggemænd!!!!
12:00 Vi
spiser frokost og bagefter går jeg i seng for at tage en gigantisk
eftermiddagslur. I mellemtiden sætter Lois sig til rette i sofaen og ser endnu
én sentimentale amerikanske tv-julefilm, ”A Rose At Christmas”.
Filmens
amerikanske tv-premiere (2018)
Samtidig med
at se filmen, graver hun frem de kalendere, vi købte i går i Webbs-havecentret.
Hun planlægger at sende dem til sine slægtninge i Australien: Stephen i Adelaide og Sylvia i Melbourne, men
da hun åbner dem, finder hun ud af, at der er ingen kuvert vedlagt i emballage,
på trods af ordene ”Envelope Included” på omslaget. Du godeste, sikke et
vanvid!!!!
Gud, bliver
hun virkelig rasende på havecentret – du godeste! Og da jeg vælter ud af
sengen, insisterer hun på, at vi kører umiddelbart til butikken for at få en
tilbagebetaling. Det værste er, at hun var meget glade for selve kalenderne, og
nu bliver hun nødt til at shoppe andetsteds for at finde noget lignende - pokkers!
16:00 Vi
dyster mod de trafikpropper forårsagede af mødre, der henter deres børn efter
endt skoledagen og smutter ind hos havecentret og får vores tilbagebetaling;
butikken har stakkevis af disse kalendere, og det er lidt af et mysterium,
hvorfor ingen har lagt mærke til før, at der ikke findes kuverter vedlagt i
emballagen, men det springer jeg over. Jeg kan forestille mig, at alle har for
travlt i juleperioden til at bekymre sig over detaljer – du godeste, sikke en
skør verden vi lever i !!!!
18:00 Vi
spiser aftensmad og bruger resten af aftenen på at se lidt fjernsyn, det
seneste afsnit af Gogglebox, hvor disse nu berømte ”almindelige tv-seere” kommenterer
ugens programmer fra deres komfortable sofaer og lænestole.
Et af
Gogglebox-programmets deltager, Giles og Mary, der bor i en lille landsby i
grevskabet Wiltshire ser nogle gange ud som om de er ukomfortabelt lignende til
Lois og mig. Og Lois siger, jeg er ved at blive til en klone af Giles, ingen
tvivl om det.
Mange aftener
sidder vi i sofaen og ser på fjernsynet, og den ene eller den anden af os
kommer med et eller andet spørgsmål, såsom er en eller anden kendis død eller
ej – den slags. Og jeg plejer at grave min smartphone frem og taster
spørgsmålet ind på dens lillebitte skærm for at google det.
Mary prøver
imidlertid altid at spørge ”Siri”, sin smartphones automatisk stemme, normalt
uden succes. I aften vil hun gerne finde ud af, hvad spindelvæv er lavet af,
for eksempel, men Giles er skeptisk. Mary stiller spørgsmålet to gange uden
svar, så prøver hun igen:
Selv
foretrækker at lide frustrationerne forårsagede af mine egne typografiske fejl –
smartphonens skærm er så mikroskopisk og mine digter er så store. Jeg bruger
aldrig mundligt input – jeg ved godt at Siri, Alexis osv kan gøre folk rasende
og edderspændte.
Men måske er
jeg bare for gammeldags. Måske er det på tide, at jeg træder ind i Siri-æraen.
Jeg må prøve at monitere Mary og Giles lidt nærmere, som de skælder Siri ud
gennem de kommende ugerne og månederne, ingen tvivl om det!
22:00 Vi går i
seng – zzzzzzzz!!!!!