Thursday, 10 October 2019

Wednesday, October 9 2019


09:00 Lois and I stay lying in bed again - she stayed up until midnight last night watching a comedy film on television: "The Lovers" (1973), based on a 1970’s sitcom, and she does not want to start the day off too soon.

 The "Lovers" tv-sitcom from the 1970’s

Paula Wilcox and Richard Beckinsale
during filming of the movie, which came out in 1973

11:00 Lois rushes out into the backyard to pick raspberries and do a bit of weeding in the vegetable garden. In the meantime, I start to vacuum all over the house - our U3A Danish group will be gathering  here tomorrow afternoon and we don't want them to think we live like pigs ha ha ha!

12:30 We are just sitting ourselves down at the dinner table when we get a text message from Sarah, our 42-year-old daughter, who lives in Perth, Australia with her husband and their 6-year-old twins. She asks us if I or Lois have any knowledge of gallstone problems in our families - yikes! (Our answer was no, for both of us).

A few weeks ago, Sarah was admitted to the local hospital because her doctor suspected she had appendicitis, although the hospital came to the conclusion that she was "simply" suffering from diverticulitis,  and a special diet seemed to solve the problem. But the problem may have arisen again, because Sarah was on sick leave today and she is currently waiting for the results of new tests.

Poor Sarah! That’s why, you see, Lois and I worry so much about her, because she is living on the other side of the world, and has no close support in the form of relatives, plus she has  a stressful job, two lively 6-year-old twins, and a husband, Francis, who himself has several physical health problems (his back, legs, knees) and is 12 years older than Sarah. Yikes (again) !!!! We just hope the tests reveal nothing too troublesome. Poor Sarah (again) !!!!

Flashback to April 2018: me (left) at a beach cafe
in the Margaret River region, Western Australia,
along with Francis, Sarah, and the twins

Obviously however, Lois and I hope the family can make their Australian adventure a success. They moved over there in December 2015, after talking about the step for years, although not planning it in any great detail, I have to say.

Francis's motives have never been 100% clear to us. He had had a difficult upbringing, to put it mildly, with a dominating mother and two dominating older sisters, followed by a bit of a challenging career in online building design, where the competition was fierce. We feel he has always had something to prove to his mother and sisters, although his mother now suffers from dementia, poor lady. Let's hope that despite everything Francis can finally make his dreams a reality.

12:45 Lois and I have lunch and afterwards I go to bed and  take a gigantic afternoon nap. I get up at 3 pm and we relax with a cup of tea on the couch.

16:00 I talk on the phone with my younger sister, Gill, who lives in Cambridge. She broke two bones in her left hand 5-6 weeks ago: the bones have  healed but her hand movements are unfortunately still very limited. A carer pops in every morning to help Gill's husband, Peter, get dressed and take a shower: he is severely disabled, but Gill is currently unable to help Peter with these kinds of tasks. Gill is also unable to cook, except for very simple meals, so they have got into the habit of buying and eating a lot of ready meals.

However, Gill and Peter still plan to visit Paris in May 2020 and stay in a hotel with plenty of rooms for the disabled, and to travel with an agency that offers to rent the kind of special equipment that Peter needs.

I ask Gill for the latest news about their 3 daughters: Zoe (and her partner Chris), Lucy, and Maria (and her partner Tom).

Maria, the youngest of Gill and Peter's 3 daughters, plans to marry her long-time partner, Tom, in April. Gill finds it amusing to see how these dyed-in-the-wool millennials go about preparing for the wedding. Everything is researched and planned in great detail: the couple have even attended wedding cake tasting sessions, sampling different cakes and suchlike, and also taken part in  "meet your caterer" experiences.

My god, what madness !!!!!

Flashback to May 2015: Gill and Peter's 30th wedding anniversary:
(from left to right) Tom and Maria (who are to marry in April 2020), Chris and Zoe, Lucy,
Gill, Gill's best friend Jill, Jill's husband, and Peter (in the wheelchair)

18:00 We have dinner and spend the rest of the evening watching some television. The latest episode of Grand Designs is on. The programme's host is the charming Kevin McCloud.


"Grand Designs" is the series I love to hate, first and foremost because I hate these huge modern houses with their huge echoing half-empty  living rooms, uncomfortable sofas, massive heavy dining tables, massive high ceilings and big windows, etc. The houses always look more like industrial complexes, a power plant, or a company's head office, than a home in my opinion.

Tonight we see Edward, a particularly crazy and, in my opinion, very immature man who, along with his wife, Hazel, and their two daughters (aged 10-12 ?), who are planning to build a massive house on dangerous cliffs in north Devon. He estimates the project will take 18 months and will cost around £1.5 million, or so.

Edward and Hazel in 2011, at the start of the project

Edward and Hazel, seen here with their 2 daughters in 2011 or so,
on the dangerous cliffs where Edward plans to build a massive house

What madness !!! 

And even Kevin McCloud, the programme's charming host, who is usually enthusiastic about any plans to build massive houses, doubts whether Edward's plans are sensible.



Even gung-ho television host Kevin suspects
that Richard's crazy plans don't make much sense - yikes!
Oh dear, I foresee a gigantic tragedy in the making !!!

Kevin's initial interview with Edward and Hazel took place 10 years ago, or so. And at the end of the programme, we see Kevin's most recent visits to the site.

The project has turned into a bit of a disaster, to put it mildly. After 8 years, Edward has spent £3m, he owes £4m, and the house is only half-finished: all work has stopped. On top of that, his wife Hazel has left him and their two daughters have grown up and left home as well.

Kevin tries to put a positive "spin" on the story, as always, but he has a hard time appearing totally convincing, I have to say.





Lois and I have often remarked, it is extraordinary how often the marriages are destroyed during some building project in the Grand Designs television series. The project often turns into strictly the man’s dream child, and becomes more and more of an insane obsession with him, while everybody else in his family are starting to lose interest.

Edward has spent 8 years of his life on this project, losing his wife and daughters, not to mention £7m. And now he owns a "house" that is not even habitable, nothing more than an abandoned building site. 

What madness !!!!

Why can't these men just live in an ordinary house, like ours, and, dare I say it, just buy one of the millions of houses that have already been built: and then live their lives in a normal way, pursuing a range of interests, and not getting mesmerized by dreams of stunning views, massive rooms, massive furniture, and empty lives?

They are all fools ha ha ha!

22:00 We go to bed. I read about 20 pages of my bedtime book before drifting off to sleep - zzzzzzz !!!!!

Danish translation:  onsdag den 9 oktober 2019

09:00 Lois og jeg bliver liggende i sengen igen – hun blev oppe til midnat i går aftes, mens hun så en komisk film på fjernsyn: ”The Lovers” (1973), baseret på en sitcom fra 1970’erne, og hun har ikke lyst til at starte dagen for tidligt.


The Lovers”-sitcommen fra 1970’erne


The Lovers: Paula Wilcox og Richard Beckinsale
under optagelsen af filmen

11:00 Lois skynder sig ud i baghaven for at plukke hindbære og luge lidt i grøntsagshaven. I mellemtiden går jeg i gang med at støvsuge overalt i huset – vores U3A danske gruppe samles her i morgen eftermiddag og vi vil ikke have dem til at tro, vi lever som svin ha ha!

12:30 Vi sætter os ved spisebordet, da Sarah, vores 42-årige datter, som bor i Perth, Australien sammen med sin mand og deres 6-årige tvillinger, sender os en sms. Hun spørger os om, enten jeg eller Lois har nogle slægtninge eller forfædre, der havde problemer med galde-sten – yikes! (Vores svar var nej, for begge to af os).

For et par uger siden, blev Sarah indlagt til det lokale hospital, fordi hendes læge mistænkte, hun havde fået blindtarmsbetændelse, selvom hospitalet snarere kom til den konklusion, hun ”simpelthen” led af divertikulsygdom, og en speciel kost virkede at løse problemet. Men problemet må have opstod igen, fordi Sarah var sygemeldt i dag, og hun i øjeblikket venter på resultaterne af nye test.

Stakkels Sarah! Derfor, ser du, bekymrer Lois og jeg os over hende, fordi hun bor i den anden side af verden, og har ikke nogen tæt støtte i form af slægtninge, samt en stressende job, to livlige 6-årige tvillinger, og en mand, Francis, der selv har adskillige fysiske sundhedsproblemer (ryggen, benene, knæene) og er 12 år ældre, end Sarah. Yikes (igen) !!!! Vi håber bare på, at testene ikke afslør noget for bekymrende. Stakkels Sarah (igen) !!!!


tilbageblik til april 2018: mig (til venstre) på en strandcafé
i Margaret River-regionen, Western Australia,
sammen med Francis, Sarah, og tvillingerne

Lois og jeg håber imidlertid, at familien kan gøre deres australske eventyr til en succés. De flyttede derovre i december 2015 efter at have talt om trinnet i årevis. Francis’ motiver har aldrig været 100% tydelige til os. Han havde haft en vanskeligt opdragelse, for at sige mildt, med en dominerende mor og to dominerende ældre søstre, fulgt af lidt af en vanskelig karriere i online bygningsdesign, hvor konkurrencen var skarp. Vi føler, han altidhar haft noget at bevise til sin mor og søstre, selvom hans mor lider nu af demens, staklen. Lad os håbe på, at han endelig trods alt kan gøre sine drømme til virkeligheden.

12:45 Lois og jeg spiser frokost og bagefter går jeg i seng for at tage en gigantisk eftermiddagslur. Jeg står op kl 15 og vi slapper af med en kop te i sofaen.

16:00 Jeg snakker lidt på telefonen med min lillesøster, Gill. Hun brækkede to knogler i den venstre hånd for 5-6 uger siden: knoglerne er helet men hendes håndbevægelser er desværre stadig helt begrænsede. En plejer smutter ind hver formiddag for at hjælpe Gills mand, Peter, med at klæde sig på og tage et brusebad: han er alvorligt handicappet, men Gill er for øjeblikket ikke i stand til at hjælpe Peter med disse slags opgaver. Gill er heller ikke i stand til at lave mad, bortset fra meget simple måltider, så de er kommet i vane med at købe og spise en masse færdigretter.

Gill og Peter planlægger imidlertid at besøge Paris i maj 2020 og opholde sig i et hotel med en masse værelser til de handicappede, og at rejse med et bureau, der tilbyder at hyre det slags specielt udstyr, som Peter har brug for.

Jeg beder Gill om de seneste nyheder om deres 3 døtre: Zoe (og hendes partner Chris), Lucy, og Maria (og hendes partner Tom).

Maria, den yngste af Gill og Peters 3 døtre, planlægger at gifte sig med sin langvarige partner, Tom, i april. Gill finder det morsomt at se, hvordan disse ægte millennialer går til værks med forberedelserne på brylluppet. Alt er forsket og planlagt i store detaljer: parret har endda deltaget i bryllupskage-prøvesessioner, hvor de smager på forskellige kager og den slags, og har også deltelt i "mød jeres cateringsleder" oplevelser.

Du godeste, sikke et vanvid !!!!!


tilbageblik til maj 2015: Gill og Peters 30. bryllupsdag:
(fra venstre til højre) Tom og Maria (der vil gifte sig i april 2020), Chris og Zoe, Lucy,
Gill, Gills bedste ven Jill, Jills mand,  og Peter (i kørestolen)

18:00 Vi spiser aftensmad og bruger resten af aftenen på at se lidt fjernsyn. De viser det seneste afsnit af Grand Designs. Programmets vært er den charmerende Kevin McCloud.



”Grand Designs” er den serie jeg først og fremmest elsker at hade, fordi jeg hader disse enorme moderne huse med deres enorme ekkoende halv-tomme stuer, ukomfortable sofaer, massive tunge spiseborde, massivt høje lofter osv.  Husene ligner altid mere industrielle komplekser, et kraftværk, eller et selskabs hovedkontor, end hjemmer efter min mening.

I aften ser vi Edward, en i sær vanvittig og efter min mening, meget umøden mand, der sammen med sin kone, Hazel, og deres to døtre (på 10-12 år måske), der planlægger at få bygget et massivt hus på farlige klinter i det nordlige Devon. Han anslår, at projektet vil tage 1,5 år og koster omkring 1,5 million £, eller deromkring.


Edward og Hazel


Edward og Hazel, set her, sammen med deres 2 døtre,
på de farlige klinter, hvor Edward planlægger at få bygget e massivt hus

Sikke et vanvid!!! Og selv Kevin, programmets charmerende vært, der normalt er entusiastisk om nogle planer som helst om at bygge massive huse, tvivler, om Edwards planer er fornuftige.




selve den gung-ho tv-vært Kevin mistænker,
at Richards planer ikke er helt fornuftige – yikes!
Jeg forudser en gigantisk tragedie i vente!!!

Kevins oprindelige interview med Edward og Hazel fandt sted for 10 år siden, eller deromkring. Ved slutningen af programmet ser vi Kevins seneste besøg til bygningspladsen.

Projektet er blevet til lidt af en katastrofe, for at sige mildt. Efter 8 år har Edward brugt 3m£, han skylder  4m£, og huset er kun halvt-færdigt: arbejdet er stoppet. Oven i købet har hans kone Hazel forlod ham, og deres to døtre er vokset op og forlod hjemmet også.

Kevin prøver at sætte en positiv ”spin” på historien, som altid, men han har svært ved at virke totalt overbevisende, det må jeg nok sige.






Lois og jeg har ofte bemærket, det er ekstraordinært, hvor ofte ægteskaber bliver ødelagt i løbet af et eller andet bygningsprojekt i Grand Designs-tv-serien. Projektet bliver ofte til drømmebarnet af manden, et projekt, der bliver mere og mere lidt af en vanvittig tvangstanke hos ham.

Edward har brugt 8 år af sit liv på dette projekt, og mistet sin kone og døtre, for ikke at nævne 7m£. Og nu ejer han et hus, som ikke engang er beboeligt, en forladte bygningsplads. Sikke et vanvid!!!!

Hvorfor kan disse mænd ikke nøjes med at bo i et almindeligt hus, som vores, og oven i købet købe ét, der allerede er blevet bygget, og leve deres liv på en normale måde, og ikke blive hypnotiseret af drømme om fantastiske udsigter, massive værelser og massive møbler?

De er alle fjolser ha ha ha!

22:00 Vi går i seng. Jeg læser omkring 20 sider af min sengetidbog, før jeg glider over i søvnen – zzzzzzz!!!!!


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